With Valentine’s on the loom… love is in the air! Or is it the air of discontent? If you just take a look at all the comments under my post – My husband ignores me, then you would begin to see just how many people are unhappy with their relationship.
I think one of the biggest problems we face is that we tend to take our partners for granted. In the begining of a relationship we tend to do stuff for each other but then we grow to expect them off each other and that is when the trouble begins. I was once advised before I got married to never do something for my future husband that I don’t intend to continue doing for the rest of my life. Probably the best advice I ever got. In other words we forget to be grateful for what our partners do for us and expect it instead. And when we do not get what we expect, then we end up upset and possibly end up in an argument.
So what can we do about it? Well we need to take a step back and think about all the things that your partner does for you and be happy about it. And it cannot be that your partner does nothing. It could be that cup of tea or taking out the trash or even taking your kid out on a Saturday. Then show your appreciation. Gratitude goes a long way.
Then if you really want to try hard, do something nice for your partner that won’t be expected. Again, it might be a cup of tea after a hard day at work or a romantic text or even run a warm bath accompanied with a glass of their favourite tipple.
Good Luck… and feel free to let me know what results you have with my tips!