“It baffles me to see that many women are suffering the same way like me,i have been married to my husband for 7 yrs now he is in the u.s and i am in africa he came to see me three times since we got married,last year he cheated on me whiles he was here, i needed evidence so i started searching untill i got my proof that he was cheating,wen he found out that i knew he ignored me wen i call him he does not talk to me or he claims to be busy i am so sad and i cry all the time.” Fatim
There is no easy way to say this, but you need to reconsider him. It sounds to me that he wants to have his cake and eat it. You speak of being married 7 years and his living in another continent yet only visiting you 3 times. Then while on a visit, he cannot keep it in his pants. If he cannot manage to be faithful when you are around, what is he doing when so far from home. I can hear you say things like, “but he works far from home because we need the money!” but everything to object to, I am sure I could respond such as “fair enough you need to go to the US for work, but take the family!”
He does not love you or he would return your calls, he would not ignore you and he would not cheat on you. I really recommend you rethink your relationship with your husband. Please note this is my opinion based on the little that you told me. If you need further feedback, leave comments in the comment thread and I will reply.
Be strong and take your life back!