Cupidopolis

“My husband and I have been married a few years. We have been trying to have a baby for a few months but so far no success. Our doctor has told us we must try for 2 years before he can refer us for further treatment, but I want a baby now!”

We do live in a world where we want something and we want it now!! Unfortunately not everything works that way. I do know that saying stop thinking about is absolutely useless, so I won’t say it. However, if you can try to not stress too much, that will help your cause. Stress is known to be one of the biggest inhibitors of pregnancy. (Just in case anyone goes off at a tangent - Stress is not a contraceptive!!)

One of the best ways to beat stress regarding having a baby, is by being proactive. Although doctors do recommend waiting 2 years if you are under 30 before having any tests, there is a lot you can do. The reason doctors say that is because 80% of people will be pregnant by the end of the first year. I would suggest getting a second opinion on getting treatment if you are over 35 or if you do not have periods or if you have any medical problems.

So what can you do to enhance getting pregnant? Here are our suggestions on how to get pregnant fast:-

• Both- Eat right - eating healthy food keeps you healthy and your body needs to be at its optimum
• Men - don’t have hot baths - it lowers sperm counts
• Both - Take Vitamins
• Both - Don’t drink coffee and caffeine drinks
• Both - Have sex! Sounds silly but you would be surprised how the pressure of conceiving reduces how much sex you have.
• Women - Take Folic Acid
• Women - Chart Yourself to find out the best time to get pregnant
• Women - keep your body weight under a BMI of 30

These are just some things you can do to encourage fertility. Obviously not limited to just the above, but a good starting point.

I would also read up about infertility as much as possible. Infertility is such a specialised area, you would be far better off reading a site dedicated to infertility. Child Wish is a great site to start with as it explains all about enhancing your chances of success which is based on using 2 natural products and timing your intercourse to increase your chances.

Meanwhile, enjoy the trying and don’t let it consume your life or let it become a chore!!

“My friend has just miscarried. What should I say or do?”

Your friend is probably feeling very low and has to go to a grieving process. Sometimes you do not need to say anything, just by being there for your friend, it can go a long way for her.

Doing small things that can make a difference to her can say alot more than words. A hug also says a lot more than words.

The best thing I can tell you is just be there for her, and bear in mind that she will be grieving as to her losing a baby is just as real as losing a family member.

Good Luck

“My son is 14 months and is not yet walking. I am worried as the other kids in our mums and tots are all walking.”

Children develop at different stages. Toddlers are so called toddlers because they toddle - walk unsteadily. I would give it a little more time but if you still feel worried, speak to your health visitor, GP or pediatrician who will help put your mind at rest.

“My son is 2 and still is not talking. My neighbours daughter who is just 18 months can say several words. I am worried that he is retarded. Who should I take him to?”

I would like to point out that children progress at different speeds. Some children will have the gift of the gab and others will take some time before they utter their first words. Girls also tend to speak earlier than boys.

Children start by babbling. They are sounds rather than words. If your son is not even doing this, you should take him to your health visitor or GP to have him checked out. This still does not mean that your child is retarded. He could have other issues such as glue ear or perhaps more simply he is a quiet and pensive child. It is not unheard of children taking their time to speak and immediately starting with full sentences.

However do speak to your health visitor to put your mind at rest that all is fine with your son.