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Betting can often be a problem if it gets out of hand. And although there are groups such as gambler anonymous, the point is to not arrive into the situation where you do become a compulsive gambler. Gambling problems are never an easy issue to broach, but if not dealt with can arise into very serious serious problems such as huge financial debts, lies, family problems and stress related issues.

This does not go to say that you should not gamble. After all I seriously believe in a democratic society and freedom of choice. After all a quick flutter can raise your heart rate and give you a sense of excitement. It can even give you a really nice feel good feeling, that can actually even be good for you.

Even simply buying a lottery ticket is gambling, yet most people who buy a ticket are buying a dream. At least for until the draw, you can think “If I win… I will pay my bills, buy a house, get that new gadget, take a round the world holiday, etc !”

The key to gambling is moderation. Good Luck!

Someone recently expressed an opinion that in today’s society if you are not savvy with computers, you begin to border on illiteracy. It is assumed that most people can read and write. And with every day that passes, there is a growing consensus to expect people to have IT access from email to being able to browse websites. I did ponder about it and realised how true that is. In todays world, we do rely on technology and if we cannot use it, it does affect our lives negatively. Thankfully with all the courses around, we are able to ensure that we are able to make the most of technology available. Oh, and the fact that you are reading this (unless printed out on a piece of paper) means that you too have at least begun to get to grips with IT. Congratulations!

I cannot help but wonder how many visitors actually come to this website, and how many people actually benefit from my advice. I have been thinking of installing a free hit counter but that would only tell me how many people visit the site. It is up to you my visitors to tell me what you think. Do feel free to leave comments and email any problems you have. I cannot promise to answer all problems, but I will do my best.

Smiling is a good way to improve your mental health without much effort. Not only that, you will also make other people happy.

Try it. It is really easy. Stretch your lips and curve them upwards. Go on. You can do it. A little bit more. You are nearly there!

See how much better you are feeling already!

It is not always about sad things. Birthdays are a great way of marking someone’s birthday. It is a way of saying, you know I am really happy that you were born. You make a difference to my life.

There are many ways of marking someone’s birthday and they need not cost the earth. Make a card, bake a cake or even buy a small token gift that could be appreciated. Even sending a text can make that person’s day. So don’t forget anyone’s birthday!

Unfortunately we all pass through loss and bereavement. It is never easy and it is always painful. But time is a great healer. Before we can begin to feel normal, we do need to go through a grieving process. There are 5 stages to getting through your grief.

1. Denial - This is when you are still in shock and cannot quiet believe that it has happened.
2. Anger - This stage you get angry about the loss. You feel that it is not fair.
3. Bargaining - Here you wish you can change places with someone else, or plea for more time. Unfortunately, most bargaining here is pointless or not possible.
4. Depression - This is when it really hits you and you feel hopeless and often useless. You often feel like there no longer is any point to anything.
5. Acceptance - This is the final stage, where you finally accept the situation and begin to continue with the rest of your life.

Once you have reached acceptance, this does not mean that you no longer feel pain but that you begin to cope and accept it. Honestly it does get easier. If at any stage, you feel you cannot cope, do speak to friends or family or a counsellor. Speaking about it is a good way to work through your grief and help you cope.

I know it does not sound realistic, but time is a great healer, I promise!

Happy New Year.

May 2008 bring you prosperity and happiness.

Best Wishes from Cupidopolis

Christmas is a time for giving. Giving needs not be material. You do not need to spend money to give. It can really be the thought that counts. Things like Breakfast in bed, a warm bath in candle light, fixing that thing you have been meaning to fix, a surprise picnic, visiting friends and family, etc can really make someones day.

Also remember that Christmas is a time “for giving”. Try to forgive and forget. Use Christmas as an excuse to make peace. If we cannot make peace with our friends and family, how can we expect no wars?

May your Christmas be blessed and full of forgiveness too.

Sometimes life can get rather stressful. There is nothing better than finding a way to vent your stress. I find that a stressball is really a great stress buster. I found a place that are giving away stress balls. All you have to do is Click here to get your Free Stress Ball

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