“I walked in on my daughter masturbating. How do I handle it?”.
Masturbation is normal and healthy. It was probably embarrassing for the both of you. You should take this opportunity to bring up safe sex and to be forthcoming about sex. Having an open parent is always great and statistically shows than children with open parents are less likely to have teenage pregnancy or other sexual issues.
As humans we are forever searching for happiness. Yet happiness is that elusive thing where the more you search for it, the less you will find it. Happiness is a result of gratefulness for what you do have and not for what you would like to have.
A good example is that many people expect they will be happy if they win the lottery yet strangely enough most people who do win the lottery tend to discover greater unhappiness and long for the days when they were really happy with what they had. Often the money does not last and things cannot return to what they were.
So the lesson is in learning to be happy with the things you do have whether it be health, a roof over your head or even your child throwing a smile your way!
“How do you stop loving someone when they do not love you back?”
Stopping love is impossible. We do not chose who we love, it just grows. Nor do we have a choice on who loves us back. You can love from afar but that too is painful.
Sadly the only cure is time and even that is not a cure. Time eases the pain and does not stop you loving them.
Keeping yourself occupied will help time pass and can temporarily even ease the pain.
May time pass quickly for you.
It is the end of the scholastic year and a number of teenagers will be leaving school. This is always a major milestone for both the parents and the school leaver.
Leaving school is a step into adult-hood and into the real world. Decisions about what to do with one’s life comes into play, and they should not be taken lightly by either the parent or the school leaver. A school consellor can help with career paths but the psychological path must be edged on by the parents.
This is definately not a time to under estimate the emotional upheaval of the whole stage. Talking about it always helps. Remember this is a truly positive time.
