“I have a crush on David Beckham. I am 35 and so feel embarrassed about it.”
Having a crush is a normal emotion even at 35. There is nothing to be embarrassed about a crush. Perhaps what can be embarrassing is who you have the crush on!
“I dread going on holiday. I don’t mind when I get there. I just don’t like getting there and back. I don’t like travelling on a plane. I have to drink till I am almost drunk to get on a plane. I know it is not logical but I just seem to break out in fear when I have to fly. I keep saying next year it will be different. But it is not, and the only way is to drink to oblivion before flying. Is this normal?”
It sounds like you have a phobia of flying. This is a pretty common phobia where around 1 in 5 may suffer from it. It is also the most commonly treated phobia. There are courses which you can attend which can help you over come your phobia.
You may also speak to your doctor who may be able to give you an anti-anxiety tablet to take before flying. Do not drink alcohol before flying as besides an airline being able to refuse to board you, alcohol effects are multiplied due to the pressurisation. This can have adverse effects on your health.
You best bet is to speak to your GP who can refer you to a course of treatment or give you anti-anxiety tablets.
Bon Voyage!
“My baby is always crying. I cannot stop her. She seems to be crying all day long. I don’t know what to do. She is driving me up the wall.”
First of all speak to your health visitor, midwife or gp to rule out any problems with your daughter. Then let them know how you are feeling. It sounds like you might be suffering from post natal depression. It can be managed very easily but you need to seek help. And it does get better. Honestly.
“I cannot seem to get myself to do things. I trudge along. If its the weekend, I slump in front of TV and do nothing all day. Even at work, all I seem to do is stare at my pc screen. My work is suffering as a result too. I cannot think and I feel sad all the time. I just want to crawl under the duvet and stay there.”
It sounds like you might be suffering from depression. If you have been feeling like this for a while, I would recommend talking to your GP or going to a counsellor or psychologist. Depression can take over your life.
If it is over a day or two only, you might be suffering from PMT. Eat some chocolates and curly up with a good book. A nice warm bath helps too.
Whatever you do, try to avoid alcohol or you could feel worse.
“My husband comes home, eats and goes straight to his computer. He is there all night and only comes to bed when he is knackered. I feel like he is a piece of the furniture. I cannot seem to get his attention. It is really begining to bother me.”
Ever considered there may be reasons why he does that. Before you do anything, first examine everything else. If you think there are no other reasons for his withdrawal, then play his game.
And if all fails - UNPLUG him!
“I have just had enough of my mum. She is an interfering busybody. She never lets me do what I want to do. She keeps making come home early while all my friends stay out. She reads my emails and my diary. She won’t even let me lock my door. She never gives me any privacy. I hate my mum!”
Your mum probably really loves you. I know it may seem uncaring and interfering that she is always in your face, but she is only doing it because she loves you. She wants to do everything she can to protect you. She probably is not even sure how she can do it. She is also trying to remain in your life.
Try talking to her and opening up. Tell her how you feel. Show her that there is nothing to worry about and that you can understand her. You will find that as you build a trust together she won’t be so invasive. But remember TRUST is built on respect and loyalty. It is 2 ways. You cannot expect her to trust you if you do things to break her trust.
Do sit down and talk to her. You never know, things can only improve.
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